Hey, It’s Okay!

I admit, I’ve read Glamour magazine a time or two. Do you remember their “Hey, It’s OK!” section? Like, it’s okay to wear the same fancy dress to a wedding or two or three. It’s okay to have a snack on you at all times. Well, I’d like to present you with my own Spain-expat-blogger edition.

[Images from #TheTopKnot tumblr, which are gifs about blogging. Hilarious!]

Hey, It’s OK!

… if you don’t take a different trip every month. Just because you live in Spain doesn’t mean you cant enjoy being at home. Likewise, if you do travel a lot—hey, it’s okay!

… if you’re just not that into Instagram. Another sunset picture? Legs on the beach? Coffee? Everyone always seems shiny and happy there, and that’s cool, but life isn’t always shiny and happy and full of latte art. Unfortunately.

When a big blogger posts an Instagram of Froyo and 500 people like it

Big Blogger Instagram Froyo

… if you’re not interested in attending any blogging conferences. I’m an introvert; it’s part of the reason why I blog. Me + a bunch of other potential introverts = Errrrmmmm.

… if you don’t always speak Spanish to your Spanish partner, even though it is just the absolute best way to practice and learn a language and blah, blah, blah. Stop guilt tripping yourself!

… if you’re not all that interested in Spanish cinema or television shows. Except for Master Chef, because I just discovered that and it is wonderful.

… if the idea of self promotion still skeeves you out a bit. I get it, it’s essential for success, but sometimes I just want people to follow me because they like my content, not because I annoy them on Twitter, Facebook, and FourSquare.

… if you really like comments and get disappointed when you don’t get any (or very few).

When I’m really excited about a post and no one comments right away


… if you might actually prefer to live in the US than in Spain. As hard as it is for some to believe, some of us like Spain—a lot!— but would prefer to live in the—gasp!—United States, closer to family, friends, and corn fields. (Okay, maybe not that last one.)

Now this is me:

When I know I’ve written a post that might piss some people off

Ron Swanson grimace

What would you add to this list?

17 thoughts on “Hey, It’s Okay!

  1. SO with you on the Instagram thing. It’s also a false representation of things a lot of the time. All the travel shots are so color saturated and high-contrast that sometimes I don’t even recognize places I’ve been.

  2. Bahahaha I could take this personally, but I’m too busy self-promoting myself. That said, time to write a blog post about how awesome I am and take pictures on instagram. and I like blogging conferences because of the all-you-can-eat food and because I get to meet other narcissists. :)

  3. Kaley, I am also an introvert, and conferences can be rough. But, there are actually a lot of people who write and blog who are introverts. When you go to these conferences you meet others like you (us). I’ve made some great friends at TBEX and other workshops. I remember one conversation started with, ‘I hate this sort of thing, I’m really trying to be outgoing!’ When my now friend said this, I agreed and we had a good laugh. I also find that it helps to step away from the conference and chill in my room for an hour or just go somewhere quiet where I can regroup, and then join the events again. It’s worth the effort if you can muster it!

    1. I think I would be so nervous, but it’s also probably a good exercise for introverts! I know I could learn a lot too, but I’ve just never made anything like that a priority. :)

  4. Never thought of my blog as a way of being super cool, make hundreds of friends or earn money. I’m obviously happy when I get a comment or a follower, specially when it’s people I’ve never seen before! total strangers liking my blog/what I share? :) I never thought of going to a blogging conference, it scares me.
    BTW Happy 4th of July! :)

    1. Thanks!

      I suppose it’s all about what you want out of blogging. Do you want to get a lot of followers and make money? Do you want to try to connect? Do you want to stay down to earth and real? I mean, maybe you can do all of those at once, but it’s not easy! I don’t think I could.

  5. I would add “It’s okay if you don’t write all the time!”. (Obviously I’m personally following this to a fault!)

    Totally guilty of the Instagram thing; I have too many pictures of beaches and café con leche :) maybe I should post some pictures of the old toilet someone left on the sidewalk near my house to keep it more real! jeje

    1. I hope you won’t take offense to that! I am just not that into it, ya know? I don’t get on that often because it’s just not my thing. But if I recall correctly, I remember some cool photos of houses in San Juan. I follow US Interior, which has some seriously sweet photos of la naturaleza estadounidense.

  6. It is ok if…
    …Your apartment reflects the culture you were born into and not only the the one in which you live.
    …If you do not dress up to go to the bakery.
    …If a good percentage of your friends here are not Spanish. (I hope that will change over time, but I refuse to force it, or feel guilty about it.)

    Great post, my husband says that I should print it out and post it on the wall to read daily. (I might get a little stressed about some of these things.)

    1. The only real Spanish friends I have are because of Mario! So far. I hope that changes too.

      I’ve stopped caring what I wear to Mercadona too! For some reason, I felt more pressure in a town like Zamora than here.

  7. I want to go to a travel blogging conference but I’m also a huge introvert. I think TBEX is one of the biggest ones and I would probably want to smart small. I also am not a huge fan of self-promotion though I know it’s necessary. It’s one of the reasons I’ve held off making a Facebook group for my blog. 1) It makes me self-conscious for some reason. 2) I don’t think I have enough followers for that. I recently got Twitter because I realized lots of bloggers had it and I have an Instagram account now. However my Instagram account so far is empty… which is the same way my Twitter account was before I started using it. Using so much social media just makes me really nervous!

  8. Great post. Just reminds me that we all are different. I wish I wanted to blog but…I don’t. Rather read yours.

  9. I’m not too sure about the blog conferences. I have been on a few blog tours because they are intimate and you really get to know other bloggers… and I especially get to check out new places in Italy that I would not really think to go.
    I was on one tour where others were talking about a few huge conferences. Some loved it others rolled their eyes. I’ve read other posts describing them as a place to meet others and not learn anything new. I feel like the most you would get is to meet people you might like online and then end up throwing up a bit in your mouth after meeting them. Bloggers are annoying, aren’t we?

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