Blogging Break

Dearest readers, I’ve not been writing much lately. I sometimes feel guilty, but feeling guilty for not writing on the Internet is perhaps the silliest of reasons. I don’t owe anyone, and I don’t think blogging when you don’t feel like it is doing anyone any favors. I have been asking myself why, though. Why don’t I feel like posting picture of Asturias or Zamora or Spanish Christmas celebrations?

The reason, I suppose, is I feel I don’t have anything novel to contribute to the conversation. I have always thought that if my blog could offer up a different perspective on Spain or being in a relationship with a Spaniard, I should write. After all, I get emails from women who ask me about this quite a lot. Maybe I’m also an object of curiosity to those who only wish they could snag a Spanish guy. (It’s not a secret, but Spanish men are officially just like any other man.)

There are many things we’re going through right now, though, things which I can’t write about, for myriad reasons. There are some things I keep off  here! Okay, a lot of things, really.

As a season of our lives draws to a close, I’m appreciating things about my life in Spain more and more, and here’s a list of the good:

My Spanish family. Of course they’re at the top of the list. I’ve got a pretty rockin’ Spanish family. My MIL is a phenomenal cook and deeply cares about me. My FIL is hilarious and always has an amusing anecdote from el pueblo to share with me. That’s just to start. But I love knowing I’m a part of this whole other unit, across the ocean from where I was born. And to think our children will have this fascinating culture heritage from two different continents and ways of life. That’s something to be thankful for!

Going to tomar algo with dear friends. I love suggesting this to people and knowing that our choices of what algo will be will vary greatly, depending on the time of day. 1 p.m.? Let’s have a vermut and an aperitivo. 4 p.m.? Coffee. 6 p.m.? Perhaps a tonic water. 8 p.m.? Beer or a glass of wine with some tapas.

The food. Let’s face it, Spain has some pretty decent food. And if you have the prototypical Spanish mother-in-law, you’re in for a treat.

Walking along cobblestone streets. There’s just something about the old streets of Spain that I love.

The fact that I am pretty darn good at Spanish, after five years here. I get frustrated sometimes when I don’t get a joke or can’t follow along with absolutely everything that’s being said, but then I remind myself that the Spaniards around me don’t modify their speech or speak slowly or explain everything to me, because they know I get it, most of the time. And I only have to ask if I don’t.

Knowing the real Spain. A lot of expats don’t get to experience Spain’s heart. They live in Madrid and take vacations to other cities, but they don’t find themselves at a family barbecue in a village with 50 inhabitants. They don’t set out their shoes on Three Kings’ Day and wake up to find them covered by presents. They don’t sit down at 2:30 p.m. every day to eat with their family. They don’t get adopted by any one for the long term. So I am truly grateful that, ever since I first ventured to my husband’s home town in November 2009 and ate cocido with the family, I’ve been able to know the true Spain and see it first hand.

We’ll see if this blogging thing takes again, but I want to wish all my faithful readers a happy 2015! Did the three kings bring you anything?

Spanish Christmas 3 Kings Day ShoesSpanish turrones ChristmasZamora Spain Christmas Viriato Plaza

18 thoughts on “Blogging Break

  1. Glad to see your New Year started off with a visit from the Three Kings as well! My mother may have deemed us too old for Santa, but the Three Kings still made an appearance :)

      1. Santa and the Reyes come to our house; even when we are travelling around the country during the holiday season they seems to know exactly where we are.

        Happy 2015! Keep enjoying life in Spain; I’m on my 20th year here.

  2. I just started reading your blog. I love the way you write. Please do continue writing. Sometimes our perspective changes (and that is not a bad thing), we think what we write doesn’t mean much to other people. However it may not be the case. I am sure something good will come out of this natural pause. Have a lovely year.

  3. Please keep blogging, I’ve only just found you… and I’m not looking for a Spanish man, but would love to find una chica!

  4. Glad to see you back! Does this mean you’ll be say adios a espana sometime soon? (Or is that classified?) Anyway, happy new year!

  5. Ahhh, I hear you on the blogging break! I haven’t posted much over the last few months; I thought I’d have renewed ganas over Christmas break but that wasn’t the case.

    I do know that often the times you post the least is when the most is happening! Sending you and Mario some swell vibes for any papeleo battles that are brewing ;)

  6. Aww, I’ve told you before how much I adore your blog but I definitely adore it because I know you’re writing just what you want to say and not what you think others want to hear. If you don’t want to say anything, that’s perfect too. Fingers crossed for everything, if all goes well, you’ll be the ones welcoming me back to the states next year ;)

  7. I love your blog and look forward to hearing your “voice” as part of my Internet routine. Whatever you decide to do about blogging, I wish you and your family peace and joy in 2015.


  8. Your blog has been one of my favourites since I discovered it, way back before I even came to Spain. It was a way to get to learn about expat life Spanish as I waited for the ministry to give me a position, then waited for the consulate to give me visa. Then through the years, your posts were just fun to read; they were almost like a letter from a friend instead of some of the other blogs that post buzzfeed type articles all the time. (Not that there’s anything wrong with that, but sometimes I’m not in the mood to read about the 23 Ways This and That is Like Whatever.)

    Best of luck for whatever it is you’re planning, and I hope 2015 is a wonderful year for you and your family!

    – Estrella

  9. Happy 2015 Kaley! I took a year and a half break a year or so ago and didn’t regret it at all. I had far too much going on with going freelance to have time or patience to write a blog.
    I really enjoy reading your material and will be here if and when you decide to come back. Take care!

  10. Happy 2015, Kaley! I’ll miss your posts, but I totally understand that sometimes you just have to take a break. Good luck with everything in the future!

  11. I had no idea you were supposed to leave your shoes out for the Wise Men to leave presents on them! Hahaha love that before-and-after shot you included :)

    And I have to agree that celebrations in villages of 50 people are really something special…I went to one of those dinners a couple months ago in rural Galicia and was basically force-fed amazing chorizo, oreja, and carne ó caldeiro by my friend’s parents :D

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